In my last post I said I was going to take a break until January. Well, it’s January, and my break is officially over! It seems lots of men made it their resolution to get cracking on finding someone in 2010, because I’ve been getting a lot of response from my profile on Plenty of Fish (separate profile related post coming up).
First, an update on James. After IM’ing and texting a bit over the holiday break, it became clear that we are not going to be romantic partners. I admit I was pushing this more than I felt it, but sensed a lack of interest on his part and gave him the out. He sent me the absolute nicest “blow off” email in response (truly, this was a work of art) and we have communicated since. Not everyone you meet has to be a “love connection” and it’s nice we can acknowledge and appreciate the level we did connect on.
OK, moving on.
I have three more men I’m juggling.
I had a first date with Dave on Sunday night. We had IM’d for a few days prior and had developed a rapport. We met at the bar of a chain restaurant and I’m not sure he stopped touching me in one way or another the entire time. Being somewhat deprived in this area, a part of me really liked it! Another part thought it was a bit much for a first date, despite our earlier conversations. But I do plan to see him again.
Tonight is a first date with Bob. I contacted him first. His 17 year old daughter actually posted his profile (originally without his knowledge!) and I found it very charming. He wrote back, we spoke on the phone and are meeting tonight. I will be his first date since his very amicable divorce a year ago. I’m looking forward to meeting him, but am not expecting much based on his relative inexperience in the dating world. Then again, he may surprise me!
And then there is Kevin. He actually lives on the left coast, but travels monthly to the east coast for business. He and I have developed a very flirtatious interaction via IM, and have spoken on the phone. Because of his location he and I will never be serious, but I am looking forward to meeting him when he comes east in a few weeks. Figures I like him best (so far).
It’s been very interesting for me to discover (slowly) what it is that attracts me to a man. I only wish I could figure out what men themselves are looking for.
