Thursday night I had a second date with James, nearly 3 weeks after our first date! That was all due to schedule challenges on both sides, and had nothing to do with not actually wanting to get together. We also both agreed that in today’s world of technology, being able to converse and continue getting to know each other in the meantime has been a real plus.
We met at a wine bar, a place I’d heard about but had never been to. It was much nicer than I had expected. We sat at a couch, and decided to try an appetizer and a flight of red wine. The flight included three glasses. We each chose one of the glasses, and when it was time to drink the third, we split it into two glasses. Unlike my dates with Tim, which also included wine flights, when there was much sharing back and forth. I find myself comparing a lot, which I suppose is only natural, to some extent, but I need to stop!
Anyway, James is a former lawyer, turned high school social studies teacher, and is very smart and interesting. We never lacked for anything to talk about. We also delved into some relationship history, which is really important to me to discover. No red flags, so that’s good.
When we walked out to our cars he gave me a nice hug (unlike the awkward hug of the first date) and then leaned in and pecked me on the lips. It was like a kiss you might give your kids, but at least I wasn’t actively hoping he wouldn’t kiss me.
When I got home I had an email from him that he had had a nice time and couldn’t believe how late it was when he saw the time – how losing track of the time must be a good sign.
I did have a nice time, and will see him again. I’m not feeling the CHEMISTRY I felt with Tim, but I like him.
